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Domestic Violence
October 25, 2008
Domestic Violence by Alberta Parish
This week, singer, actress and Academy Award winner Jennifer Hudson’s mother and brother were found shot in their Chicago home. Both victims were already deceased when discovered inside the home on Friday, October 24, 2008. Julian King, Hudson’s nephew, was kidnapped by the killer from the home and is still missing. Police have already said that the killings are the result of domestic violence.
Living in a very wicked world, you really must pay attention to the type of relationships you choose to enter into. Many times upon meeting someone, they always appear to be the average Joe or Sue. They may be very nice, gentle, giving and thoughtful, but this is how most sociopaths come across in their initial meeting anyway. These are the kind of people that will tell you everything you want to hear, and unfortunately, most women fall for smooth words that a guy or girl puts in their ears. Most young girls, unfortunately, are sort of gullible when it comes to believing most of what a guy tells them. This is why a lot of girls end up in abusive relationships whether the abuse is physical, emotional or sexual. Oh yes, there are girls being sexually abused by their boyfriend or even husband on a regular basis. Many times, abuse starts with a guy or girl making verbally abusive comments to you like, “You’re too fat!”…“You need to lose weight!”…“I don’t want you to touch me unless you lose some of that fat!”…“You’re a fu%$#in’ b%$#ch!”…“Whore!”…“Slut!”…“Cunt!” Then the verbal abuse often turns into verbal threats like, “If I can’t be with you, no one will!”…“If you ever cheat on me, I’ll fu%$#in’ kill you!”…“If you never take my children away from me, I’ll kill you!”
A lot of times, women see certain things about their partner that really stands out, but of course for the sake of the kids and because he earns a great salary, she overlooks his abusive attitude and behaviorism. But then one day, he does something that she can’t quite overlook, which is his cheating on her. Now, in a committed relationship, if someone cheats on his/her partner, that is a form of emotional abuse. Why? If a partner cheats, that has caused emotional injury to the other partner. Cheating has now compromised the relationship or marriage. A person can’t just get over a cheating spouse’s behavior over night. Unfortunately, some guys are very insensitive when it comes to their partners or wives, and they cheat just like they’re not already living with a woman or married. This is why couples need to discuss in the very beginning stages of their committed relationship what it is they expect out of the relationship. Many guys need sex all the time, and if you’re the kind of woman who doesn’t mind having sex every day or every other day, then this will be a great situation for you. However, if you hook up with a man who probably has a sex addiction and you’re not this way, this will cause problems later on in your relationship. A person with a sex addiction will function very well with a partner who also has a sex addiction. Anything other than this, you’re asking for trouble because you cannot change a person who has a sex addiction. Women always mess up when they think they’re going to change him. Women have babies by men who they think are going to change after the arrival of the baby. You cannot change how a man feels about you or what he is doing to you. The only person you can change is YOU! Change what you do! Change the kind of people you decide to hook up with! Change your attitude and behavior when it comes to certain things! And I guarantee you will attract the kind of man or woman that you want and need in your life. Some people aren’t real about their sexuality. They’re with people they really don’t want to be with. This too causes unnecessary problems in relationships. Some people pose as straight men and women their entire lives, and have had homosexual relationships for half of their lives.
Domestic violence doesn’t just begin and end with a partner killing members of his/her own household. Domestic violence has its beginning with the abusive words that a partner says to his/her other partner. It begins with a boyfriend/husband that says mean and hateful words to his children or children that are not his. Domestic violence begins with the first time he slapped you, or when he forced himself upon you after you verbally and repeatedly told him NO. It began with you being afraid to come home at night, because you were afraid of him. Domestic violence began when he had sex with your daughter or son. It began when an aunt or uncle came over to your house, and sexually molested or abused your daughter or son. It began when he cheated on you, not once but twice and then boasted to you and everybody else about it.
Having never been physically, sexually or emotionally abused by any past boyfriends, I still know what it’s like to be emotionally/verbally abused. I know what it’s like for a child to be sexually molested because I experienced it, too. This is why I can talk about these issues proficiently and maybe help others to deal with these kinds of issues. A person cannot just sweep these issues under the rug and think that all is well, because they’ll always resurface in some way. There are young girls right now that are in prison who have been products of domestic violence. Obviously, they had no one to really confide in about their past negative experiences and help them properly channel that rage brewing inside of them.
Domestic violence of any kind does not have to be tolerated by you. At least think about your child’s safety, if you don’t care enough to think about your own.
Order now The Evil Within Him, which also addresses issues of childhood abuse at BN.com or Amazon.com! Also, check out my weekly column at www.freewebs.com/btpmagazine.
Alberta
www.freewebs.com/albertaparish
www.freewebs.com/btpmagazine
www.revolutionizedwriterbookclub.ning.com
Domestic Violence by Alberta Parish
This week, singer, actress and Academy Award winner Jennifer Hudson’s mother and brother were found shot in their Chicago home. Both victims were already deceased when discovered inside the home on Friday, October 24, 2008. Julian King, Hudson’s nephew, was kidnapped by the killer from the home and is still missing. Police have already said that the killings are the result of domestic violence.
Living in a very wicked world, you really must pay attention to the type of relationships you choose to enter into. Many times upon meeting someone, they always appear to be the average Joe or Sue. They may be very nice, gentle, giving and thoughtful, but this is how most sociopaths come across in their initial meeting anyway. These are the kind of people that will tell you everything you want to hear, and unfortunately, most women fall for smooth words that a guy or girl puts in their ears. Most young girls, unfortunately, are sort of gullible when it comes to believing most of what a guy tells them. This is why a lot of girls end up in abusive relationships whether the abuse is physical, emotional or sexual. Oh yes, there are girls being sexually abused by their boyfriend or even husband on a regular basis. Many times, abuse starts with a guy or girl making verbally abusive comments to you like, “You’re too fat!”…“You need to lose weight!”…“I don’t want you to touch me unless you lose some of that fat!”…“You’re a fu%$#in’ b%$#ch!”…“Whore!”…“Slut!”…“Cunt!” Then the verbal abuse often turns into verbal threats like, “If I can’t be with you, no one will!”…“If you ever cheat on me, I’ll fu%$#in’ kill you!”…“If you never take my children away from me, I’ll kill you!”
A lot of times, women see certain things about their partner that really stands out, but of course for the sake of the kids and because he earns a great salary, she overlooks his abusive attitude and behaviorism. But then one day, he does something that she can’t quite overlook, which is his cheating on her. Now, in a committed relationship, if someone cheats on his/her partner, that is a form of emotional abuse. Why? If a partner cheats, that has caused emotional injury to the other partner. Cheating has now compromised the relationship or marriage. A person can’t just get over a cheating spouse’s behavior over night. Unfortunately, some guys are very insensitive when it comes to their partners or wives, and they cheat just like they’re not already living with a woman or married. This is why couples need to discuss in the very beginning stages of their committed relationship what it is they expect out of the relationship. Many guys need sex all the time, and if you’re the kind of woman who doesn’t mind having sex every day or every other day, then this will be a great situation for you. However, if you hook up with a man who probably has a sex addiction and you’re not this way, this will cause problems later on in your relationship. A person with a sex addiction will function very well with a partner who also has a sex addiction. Anything other than this, you’re asking for trouble because you cannot change a person who has a sex addiction. Women always mess up when they think they’re going to change him. Women have babies by men who they think are going to change after the arrival of the baby. You cannot change how a man feels about you or what he is doing to you. The only person you can change is YOU! Change what you do! Change the kind of people you decide to hook up with! Change your attitude and behavior when it comes to certain things! And I guarantee you will attract the kind of man or woman that you want and need in your life. Some people aren’t real about their sexuality. They’re with people they really don’t want to be with. This too causes unnecessary problems in relationships. Some people pose as straight men and women their entire lives, and have had homosexual relationships for half of their lives.
Domestic violence doesn’t just begin and end with a partner killing members of his/her own household. Domestic violence has its beginning with the abusive words that a partner says to his/her other partner. It begins with a boyfriend/husband that says mean and hateful words to his children or children that are not his. Domestic violence begins with the first time he slapped you, or when he forced himself upon you after you verbally and repeatedly told him NO. It began with you being afraid to come home at night, because you were afraid of him. Domestic violence began when he had sex with your daughter or son. It began when an aunt or uncle came over to your house, and sexually molested or abused your daughter or son. It began when he cheated on you, not once but twice and then boasted to you and everybody else about it.
Having never been physically, sexually or emotionally abused by any past boyfriends, I still know what it’s like to be emotionally/verbally abused. I know what it’s like for a child to be sexually molested because I experienced it, too. This is why I can talk about these issues proficiently and maybe help others to deal with these kinds of issues. A person cannot just sweep these issues under the rug and think that all is well, because they’ll always resurface in some way. There are young girls right now that are in prison who have been products of domestic violence. Obviously, they had no one to really confide in about their past negative experiences and help them properly channel that rage brewing inside of them.
Domestic violence of any kind does not have to be tolerated by you. At least think about your child’s safety, if you don’t care enough to think about your own.
Order now The Evil Within Him, which also addresses issues of childhood abuse at BN.com or Amazon.com! Also, check out my weekly column at www.freewebs.com/btpmagazine.
Alberta
www.freewebs.com/albertaparish
www.freewebs.com/btpmagazine
www.revolutionizedwriterbookclub.ning.com
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